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How love changes us - My open letter to Karen and you

Posted on 26 October, 2017 at 20:10 Comments comments (0)


I came across this serenity prayer for caregivers. I was so moved by it that I felt led to share it with you. I thank God for my beautiful wife, Karen, who is my main caregiver. With all the challenges to my energy, mobility, focus, the functioning of my body and memory that my extremely rare allergy cell disease mastocytosis presents, Karen has always been there encouraging and challenging me to be the best I can be. In this allergy cell condition, my mast cells don’t work right. Mast cells are those cells necessary for life that are in your immune system and throughout your body tissues. We all need mast cells to survive. In my case, it’s too much of a good thing where these mast cells keep increasing that are irregular in shape and size. Karen tells people it’s like having allergy on steroids. I tell people it’s like having a neighborhood block party that’s out of control.


Please share this open letter with those you think would be touched by it. Let us all be thankful for caregivers and the loved ones they are there for. Let us be there for the caregiver and the ones they help. Just listening to them and helping with practical things like sending over some meals once in a while can make a huge difference. They will feel that you care. They will not feel so alone in their struggles. They will be able to take time to laugh and enjoy the blessing that is you.


Now, I have a message for Karen that I’m giving to her as a surprise gift.


Karen, thanks for nights too numerous to count when you laid your weary head on the bottom of my hospital bed. You prayed I would be alive in the morning after having a breathing tube put down my throat because of anaphylaxis, and being placed on a ventilator to breathe. When I had my breathing tube taken out, you held me and kissed me. I was glad to be alive because when I was conscious your eyes filled with love made me feel thankful for the gift of life. I became more keenly aware of how each breath we breathe is a gift from God.


My health has improved in so many ways because of how you love me with God’s love in you, and the medical care I have been receiving. We both know human love would not have carried us this far; it would have buckled under the pressure of life’s struggles.


My precious darling, I thank God for the blessing that is you. In those times when you feel the weight of the cross you carry, I pray you will remember you never carry it alone. Christ who gave His life for you, me and all of us, carries your cross for you. He knew it would be too heavy for you to carry alone.


Remember that night I was struggling to breathe because of my pneumonia and I breathed this prayer: “Lord, I thank You for the gift of coming closer to You?” That was the wise advice Papa (religious name Patriarch Paul) gave me. Darling, I felt so close to our savior then. It was like His arms wrapped around me, comforting me, making me feel so loved.


My sweet butterfly, I loved you from the first day I saw you as that shy person at that Bible study. God had me see that within you lived the desire to be deeply loved and appreciated. You have blossomed so much more into the woman of God He had in mind when He created you. I am so proud of the woman you have become, how you have allowed God to shape you. When it comes to helping others there is a mixture of boldness and grace that pours out of your spirit. This unconditional love can only be from how Christ’s love has embedded itself deeper into your heart.


I love you not merely for what you do as my caregiver, but moreover for who you are. You have come out of your hidden cocoon and matured into this beautiful woman that is a joy to behold and tell others about.


There are so many ways to say love in different languages but the message is still the same — caring for someone more than yourself and becoming someone better because of that person. That is the transforming power of love.


Karen, I am a better man because of you and the many people among my family, friends, colleagues, and strangers I have met on the street, who all have been part of the forming of my character. You are my coach and my cheerleader. Yet, above all of these things, you are my God-given companion.


God bless you richly.


Kevin

Dr. Kevin James Osborne, D.Sc., D.D., Psy D. Candidate, is the Vice-President of Institutional and Mission Advancement for St. James the Elder University. He was recently named to the office of Chaplain by Most Reverend Heyward B. Ewart Ph.D., Psy.D., D.D., who is the Head of Holy Catholic Church International.  Kevin is a Doctorate in Psychology (Psy.D.) candidate at St. James the Elder University. When he graduates, he feels God is leading him to study for a Master of Theology degree in Catholic Theology through St. James the Elder University, in preparation to become a deacon and then a priest with Holy Catholic Church International. Kevin will take that longer journey to doctoral studies in theology in preparation to become a professor integrating psychology with theology. Karen plans to take graduate studies in psychology and theology. Our journey is all about being servants of Christ’s love to others.


Father, help us learn from the poor

Posted on 15 October, 2017 at 15:40 Comments comments (0)



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Father, what a better world it would be if we learned from the poor

to be servants of Your love

Give from Your heart in us to the poor, who Your love can’t get enough of

Lord, give us open hearts to the poor

Learn from them as they come to our door

Hear the stories of their hearts

Take the time the gift of Your inner healing love to them impart



Many sad faces have I seen

The damage to the dignity of the poor from those who are ignorant, those who are mean

The destruction from those who judge the poor as being nothing

when in Your eyes they are beautiful; they are really quite something!



Father, You shape us all into the people You want us to be,

that our lives would reflect that of Jesus, the man from Galilee

The One who made the lame to walk, the blind to see not just with their eyes,

but also with their spirituality.

He who gave His life at Calvary so from all darkness we would be forever set free

Thank you for loving a sinner like me

 


Oh, God, how can we thank You enough for salvation’s loving gift?

For Your willingness to allow Your one and only Son to die

Love that did not pass us by

Burning love give to us for the poor in body and spirit You to us bring

Let us for them a song of love’s sweet refrain to their weary spirits sing

 


Father, we have so much to learn from the poor

Be willing to be taught by them what it means to care

What it means from our many blessings with them to share

The love that can be found in community

The hope of Christ that to all of us He can give

Two open hands to others because Jesus does in our spirit live

 


When you see a homeless person out on the street

Cold, hungry, feeling all alone, please take time to get to know their name

Be taught by that person through their story

Show that hurting soul in despair that you are there, that you care

 


Working together we need to learn from the poor how we can lift them out of poverty,

so that a brighter tomorrow they see, where no longer will they need to decide to

pay their rent or food or medication, because we joined together to end poverty

with an undying dedication.



Lord, please teach me, teach all of us how we can learn from the poor,

that poverty would one day be no more.

 

Dr. Kevin James Osborne D.D., D.Sc., Psy. D. (Cand.) is the Vice-President of Institutional and Mission Advancement for St. James the Elder University. If you would like to speak with him about becoming a student or just want someone who will pray with you, you can contact him at kevin@youcanhopeagaincounselling.com. You can call him at (705)316-0725. You can reach Patriarch Paul, who is President of St. James the Elder University at (904)805-6163. His email address is bewart3804@comcast.net Here’s the link for the school. www.stjamestheelder.org/ As a fundraiser for a church that will have a university and seminary as well as a medical and counselling centre where NO ONE will be denied care, we are offering a greatly reduced price of $2,500 for our combined Master to Doctoral Programs in Psychology and Theology. In the coming weeks, we will be introducing degree programs in Social Work. If God is tugging at your heart to study with us take a leap of faith and listen to it. You never know where it may lead.

The Gift of Coming Closer to Christ

Posted on 26 September, 2017 at 13:55 Comments comments (1)


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Dear reader:

This is a pastoral letter from me to you. For those who don't know what that is it's a way of communicating on a personal level from a pastor to the congregation. In churches such as the Catholic and Anglican church it's an official letter from a Bishop or higher ecclesiastical leader conveying a spiritual truth or some matter of doctrinal or theological teaching. One of the communities I offer my service to is you. In this world where we hear more bad news about escalating tensions with North Korea that could lead to war and the constant threat of terrorism, we need to reach out to love others, to be there for them in their time of need, to be that listening ear in their struggles. I seek to show you how we can overcome hate with love. I pray you will feel that love coming to you as if I was in the same room with you speaking to your heart and life. 

 

How’s everything going for you?

 

I’m only three courses away from graduating from St. James the Elder University with my Doctorate in Psychology (Psy.D.). This journey started 16 years ago is nearing fruition. I share this joyful news with you to encourage you. Many of you already know I have an extremely rare autoimmune disease called mastocytosis. This condition involves a proliferation of mast (immune and systemic) cells. We all need mast cells to survive. For me, it’s a case of having too much of a good thing. Imagine having twelve cups of coffee a day. That wouldn’t be good for you. I know a few students who have pulled all-nighters drinking coffee in preparation for an exam. New studies say some coffee is a good thing, but too much of it isn’t.


I pray my overcoming story will be an inspiration to you. If I with this disease with all of its challenges to things such as breathing, energy, mobility, kidney function, and memory can be this close to a Doctorate accredited by the state of Florida, think what you can do with the life God has given you. He has a plan uniquely designed just for you. I thought at one time I would be a journalist and a lawyer. While our Father has given me some intensive training in journalism, criminal and business law, His main calling on my life has been to be there for others in deep emotional distress. Pastors, teachers and everyday people have shared things with me they say they haven’t with anyone else. I pray they see in me the shining light of Christ’s hope in their darkness and despair.


I come now with two open hands asking you to pray for my wife Karen and I. I have pneumonia in my left lung. To the best of my recollection, this will be my eighth bout with pneumonia, one episode of it going into both lungs. I have been put on the third round of another antibiotic in hopes it will heal it. I feel God’s comforting peace around me unlike I have in many years. My dear friend, Patriarch Paul, said to me yesterday as we were joking and listening to one another, “Kevin, my dear son, when you get to the point you can’t take this suffering any longer say to the Lord, “Father, I thank You for the gift of coming closer to You.” Our suffering gives us an opportunity to identify more with the pain Christ endured for us. Let these words from the apostle Paul be our united testimony: “And my present life is not that of the old “I”, but the living Christ within me. The bodily life I now live, I live believing in the Son of God, who loved me and sacrificed himself for me” (Galatians 2:20, J.B. Phillips New Testament). That too is my hope, my prayer for you. When life becomes overwhelming and you can’t take it any longer you will say, “Father, I thank You for the gift of coming closer to You. I thank You that through my suffering I’m given this priceless gift to be given the time out of my busy schedule to draw near to You, to feel a love that I could ever fully explain. How can we as finite beings understand the mystery of Christ’s love? It would be like trying to explain what makes Bach’s Jesu Joy of Man’s Desiring beautiful or say what makes a rose lovely. Words fail. I can’t describe this love to you. I can only say, “Lord, thanks for loving me a sinner that much!”

 

I love you in the Lord!


Kevin

 

Dr. Kevin James Osborne D.D., D.Sc., Psy. D. (Cand.) is the Vice-President of Institutional and Mission Advancement for St. James the Elder University. If you would like to speak with him about becoming a student or just want someone who will pray with you, you can contact him at kevin@youcanhopeagaincounselling.com. You can call him at (705)316-0725. You can reach Patriarch Paul, who is President of St. James the Elder University at (904)805-6163. His email address is bewart3804@comcast.net Here’s the link for the school. http://www.stjamestheelder.org/ As a fundraiser for a church that will have a university and seminary as well as a medical and counselling centre where NO ONE will be denied care, we are offering a greatly reduced price of $2,500 for our combined Master to Doctoral Programs in Psychology and Theology. In the coming weeks, we will be introducing degree programs in Social Work. If God is tugging at your heart to study with us take a leap of faith and listen to it. You never know where it may lead.

In Times Like These

Posted on 5 September, 2017 at 14:30 Comments comments (0)



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If we all just reached out and touched somebody’s hand

what a better world this would be

We would show the best of our humanity

In times like these, I close my eyes, bow my head in prayer

Thinking of all the trouble in the world out there

The threat of nuclear war with North Korea

Terrorism

Soldiers going into harm’s way for the freedoms we enjoy

The growing cases of PTSD among them, first responders

indigenous people, and in our society

Suicides

The waste of the gift of life

A growing acceptance of a lukewarm faith

An increase of hatred based in ignorance

Judging people for their race

The colour of their skin

Their Christianity or whatever religion they are

Attacking people emotionally and physically for their beliefs

Cyber-bullying

Poverty

Unemployment

Disabled people denied career opportunities

Let us be thankful for those who see the disabled are strong

They to our society belong

Those who give them the opportunity for a career

Those who believe the disabled have a place

They are of benefit to the human race

Disease

Despair

Loneliness

Addiction

Abuse

Homelessness

Global warming

The growing disparity between the haves and have nots

This list is only a few of the issues we face

The problems are many

The solutions to them rest with us

But we must not allow them to paralyze us into inaction

They should be the reason we live each day doing what we can

Reaching out to those less fortunate than ourselves

Offering that caring hand up that leads to realistic hope

If we dwell on all the problems we will get overwhelmed

The best thing to do is to focus on even one of them

Do your best to be a voice for the voiceless

Give them the tools to speak for themselves

To advocate for their rights

Times like these need people like you

Willing, dedicated hearts

Smiles from your heart that lighten sadness

Outstretched hands of compassion

Two open hands to wounded lives

Just saying, “Here I am.”

Being available

Being consistent

Being caring

Being real

Doing all this in times like these


Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counselors. Kevin is going to be a chaplain. He also feels called to be a professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen is the Director of a women’s abuse shelter. She enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppets, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy teddy bear, and Mike the Moose from Matheson. This is a small town in northern Ontario, Canada, an hour’s drive south of the city of Timmins. Dr. Teddy and Mike the Moose from Matheson are consultants with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

The Blueberry Pie Caper

Posted on 19 August, 2017 at 10:45 Comments comments (0)





I rarely get in trouble as a child. If something happened when Mom was away, she would say to my sisters and brother when she returned, “You need to be an example to Kevin.” I was such an angelic child:) Whenever I say this with my sister or wife present they start laughing uproariously. Then, Valerie talks about the kind of trouble I start like the blueberry pie caper.


I’m eight. My sister, Valerie, gets me angry about something she asks me to do. She comes out the front door of our home. It is so hot, but there is a cool breeze. I’m sitting on one of the front door steps. I say, “Sis, sit down beside me and take a break.” Without looking she sits down on a freshly baked blueberry pie my Mom leaves outside to cool. Mom is taking it to a pie social. There is pie all over her newest and coolest white denim pedal pushers. It’s such a huge sacrifice to make. Blueberry pie is my favorite pie.

 

The execution of my plan comes off much better than my wildest expectations. Mom comes out of our home when Valerie cries out to Mom saying, “It’s all Kevin’s fault! He made me sit on the blueberry pie!” Mom says, “Valerie, you should have watched what you were doing.”


Being the youngest does have its advantages.


Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counselors. Kevin is going to be a chaplain. He also feels called to be a professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen is the Director of a women’s abuse shelter. She enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppets, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy teddy bear, and Mike the Moose from Matheson. This is a small town in northern Ontario, Canada, an hour’s drive south of the city of Timmins. Dr. Teddy and Mike the Moose from Matheson are consultants with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog



L.O.V.E. C.A.M.E.

Posted on 19 August, 2017 at 0:40 Comments comments (0)


“He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds, you have been healed” (I Peter 2:24, NIV).


Love of Christ shine out of me


Open hands of Christ to suffering humanity


Valiant spirit of Christ, help me fight against inhumanity

 

Enfold me in a far greater humility



Christ who died carrying the weight of your sin to the cross


asks you would pray,


“Make me free from sin’s captivity.

 

Erase all the wounds in me.”


Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counselors. Kevin is going to be a chaplain. He also feels called to be a professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen is the Director of a women’s abuse shelter. She enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppets, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy teddy bear, and Mike the Moose from Matheson. This is a small town in northern Ontario, Canada, an hour’s drive south of the city of Timmins. Dr. Teddy and Mike the Moose from Matheson are consultants with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

 

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

Father, how can You ask me to forgive?

Posted on 9 August, 2017 at 0:30 Comments comments (0)


This thought from C.S. Lewis seems to ask too much of us. If we are to be who God created us to be, then we must make that difficult voyage from how others have hurt us to forgive them. Our Father asks tough things from His children. He asked even tougher things of His Son in calling Him to forgive those responsible for His death. Let those words of passionate love spoken from a man enduring agonizing suffering on the cross for sinful humanity be etched upon our memory. “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34 KJV).


True love means the willingness to forgive others for how they have hurt you. But we must go there to be the people God is creating us to be. If we stop mid-stream and harbor unforgiveness, we hurt not only ourselves but all those around us. I share some thoughts about how tough that journey can be.


I prayed yesterday about the thoughts I shared about our old microwave.


I thought even though the piece was serious that the humor of it came out of the situation, but Karen had a different perspective. She said it revealed a feeling of being beleaguered and a lot of pent up frustration and anger. I would have far preferred to keep my pain silent, but to do so would be to fail our Father and you as my readers. I am called to be real with you regardless of how difficult that is. Showing you the parts of my character God is still working on is uncomfortable, but for my writing on matters of Christian maturity to be as meaningful as it should be, I need to show you some of the imperfections in me. The truth is a dear friend I trusted hurt me by the things she said to me in a private message. I had invested a lot of my time helping her, but this is the reality of life. You will always have people who hurt you by the things they do and say. I only need cite the malicious hate of others displayed on social media platforms such as Facebook. I know a dearly beloved friend who makes limited appearances on Facebook because of the poisonous venom of others attacking her for her faith. Why do people do cruel things like this? It’s because they like all of us are on a journey of being perfected in love. You will always encounter people who find it too much hard work to deal with their issues. Instead of doing this they will seek to make you feel guilty for the situation they created through their own disobedience to God.


The important thing to remember is to keep loving them as Christ calls you to, and pray for them. This is the true test of love – caring when the hurt within you says not to, when the pain gets entrenched so deep inside you, that it would seem easier to bury it, to not look at it, and to say you’re weak for allowing the thoughts of a friend to affect you so much. The training from our past says to have a tougher skin, but these are all lies. Being wounded is not the sin. Carrying that within your heart, and letting it ruin your life is.


When you are deeply hurt knowing God specializes in fixing the brokenness in others can be so tough to remember. In my marriage to Karen, I can either have a marriage or insist on my right to be right. God calls us as Christians to a higher standard of forgiveness. If God is so willing to forgive the sin in us why aren’t we as willing to forgive others for theirs? I know. The wounds those you trust inflict upon you can run so deep. It seems impossible to forgive. For some of us, that journey takes longer than others. God knows your hurt more than anyone else. He is there waiting to hear you say. “Father, I choose to forgive those who have harmed me. I ask You to carry out that forgiveness in my heart.” Let all the hate out, and let God in. Allow Him to love on you. Give Him the permission to take the healing balm of His Son’s love, and pour it all over you. Let the tears come, and the healing rain flow.


I said to Karen, “Darling, it would be easier for me if I didn’t care about people so much.” She looked at me with tenderness as she said, “Darling, that’s what makes you such an effective therapist. You show a willingness to be vulnerable. Never lose that. You can’t help others if you only give a part of yourself.”


Karen speaks the truths I need to hear. Perhaps, what I share will help others out there who are struggling with forgiving the terrible harm inflicted upon you.


I pray these thoughts have helped you in some way.


Keep loving others. It’s the greatest gift you have to offer wounded lives. In giving love from the heart of Christ’s compassion within you, rivers of inner healing can flow into their lives and yours.


Let Christ’s love and forgiveness for the inexcusable be at the heart of who you are.


Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counselors. Kevin is going to be a chaplain. He also feels called to be a professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen is the Director of a women’s abuse shelter. She enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppets, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy teddy bear, and Mike the Moose from Matheson. This is a small town in northern Ontario, Canada, an hour’s drive south of the city of Timmins. Dr. Teddy and Mike the Moose from Matheson are consultants with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

Ode to a Microwave

Posted on 7 August, 2017 at 11:45 Comments comments (0)


The other day our microwave went kaput.

I felt like kicking it with my foot.

When I heard a snapping sound as I tried to open the door,

it fought back at me and gave me what for.


It was holding my hot chicken noodle soup captive.

Let’s just say I got over-reactive.

I got so angry at it swear words I did say.

I was determined for holding my lunch hostage,

it would dearly pay.


I said to the microwave, “I’ll get back at you.

You just wait and see what I do!”

Knowing the microwave was toast,

a knife from the cutting block I did get,

and after about an hour I finally

got my chicken noodle soup free.

I said to this taunting microwave,

“Hee! Hee! Hee!”


I was exhausted from fighting with the microwave.

I knew to explain all that happened to my wife Karen,

my energy I would need to save.

I slept the rest of the afternoon.

When I woke up Karen was there.

She must have seen the fatigue in my face,

because she looked concerned as she looked at me and said,

“Darling, what kind of day did you have?”


I told her about my noble battle with the microwave.

I knew she would empathize with me.

She recalled years ago when we thought our microwave was history.

But when we thought it was gone,

no lights, no power in it did we see,

we thought that’s the end of our microwave.

We’ll have to get another one,

the microwave, it came back on.


We looked at the cost of a new one from other stores,

but thought their prices were way too high.

We decided from Kijiji a microwave we would buy.

We got a name-brand one from Kijiji

because the price was right.

In fact, to use an expression from the 1970s, “It was out of sight!”


We’ll always miss our old microwave.

Like a good friend, you get used to it.

But like all the tough times we have in life,

when people hurt us by the things without thinking they say,

I believe God brings people to help us through our inner pain.

They are there with us as our inner strength we regain.

They are those caring people our Father brings our way,

so through our hurt, we can see hope for our brighter day.


Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counselors. Kevin is going to be a chaplain. He also feels called to be a professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen is the Director of a women’s abuse shelter. She enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppets, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy teddy bear, and Mike the Moose from Matheson. This is a small town in northern Ontario, Canada, an hour’s drive south of the city of Timmins. Dr. Teddy and Mike the Moose from Matheson are consultants with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

Community is You and I

Posted on 31 July, 2017 at 15:45 Comments comments (0)


These children know what community is; it’s one person helping another; it’s everyone offering their piece of the puzzle to address an issue affecting their community. 

“Community is not an ideal; it is people. It is you and I. In community we are called to love people just as they are with their wounds and their gifts, not as we want them to be.” -Jean Vanier

It’s all of us pulling together to make our communities a better place to live. How do we do that? We recognize that the solutions to society’s problems lie in the collective ideas of others. Each of us has a piece of the puzzle of how to make our community much more than it already is. We work together to see how each idea offered is part of solving that puzzle.

Through our wounds, we share something of ourselves with those who need to hear a message of hope. Our struggles and how we have overcome need to be a part of the conversation of dealing with issues such as poverty. There are all kinds of answers on how to more successfully deal with poverty in our society. We need to sit down together and really listen to one another. We need to value that one person’s thoughts on how to reduce poverty are just as valid as another’s. It’s all part of a larger and much more important goal of all of us doing the hard work together to support one another in our communities.

Community to a starving person is someone offering meals to that individual. It seems such a simple thing, and yet it doesn’t happen as much as it should. There is often a silent judgment of those who for whatever reason are poor. I have learned from a young African man that community to him is someone who is willing to offer him a university scholarship, so he can get a good job to support his family. In affluent countries little is thought of the blessing of three meals every day to those who aren’t impacted by poverty. But to this young African man having even one meal in the day to feed him and his family would be a blessing beyond value.

What community is to each person is different. The essential message though is the same. It’s one person reaching out to help another person.

Community to Jean Vanier is finding the message of unconditional love in the residents with developmental challenges he works with. He would say that their number one question is this: Will you love me? Having looked into the eyes of these adults with beautiful child-like minds when I was on retreat at L’Arche, I have learned what community means to them. It is love with two open hands of acceptance.

We can learn a lot about what community should mean by spending time with these wise adults.

Love in action is the message of their community. Let’s do all we can working together to make it the reason for ours.

Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counselors. Kevin is going to be a chaplain. He also feels called to be a professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen is the Director of a women’s abuse shelter. She enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppets, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy teddy bear, and Mike the Moose from Matheson. This is a small town in northern Ontario, Canada, an hour’s drive south of the city of Timmins. Dr. Teddy and Mike the Moose from Matheson are consultants with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

 

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In Stillness We Hear

Posted on 18 July, 2017 at 13:05 Comments comments (0)



Father, slow down our minds so, like a child listening to a seashell, we take the time to hear the sounds of Your peace.


Have we been rushing too much, failing to listen to lessons taught by You in quietness? Please forgive us. Have we confused Your plan with ours? Give us clarity. Have we been so busy that we have made deals with You about the amount of time we are called to be still and know that You are God? O, draw us to that peaceful place where we will take the time to restore our weary souls. Have we thought doing is being? Help us to be more listeners than doers, for it is in truly hearing You, we can feel Your guidance if we allow ourselves to. Let us all take time in the noise of life to be quiet before You. Let these blind eyes see, feel and know You more deeply. Amen.

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Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counselors. Kevin is going to be a chaplain. He also feels called to be a professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen is the Director of a women’s abuse shelter. She enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppets, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy teddy bear, and Mike the Moose from Matheson. This is a small town in northern Ontario, Canada, an hour’s drive south of the city of Timmins. Dr. Teddy and Mike the Moose from Matheson are consultants with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog


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