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L.O.V.E. C.A.M.E.

Posted on 19 August, 2017 at 0:40 Comments comments (0)


“He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds, you have been healed” (I Peter 2:24, NIV).


Love of Christ shine out of me


Open hands of Christ to suffering humanity


Valiant spirit of Christ, help me fight against inhumanity

 

Enfold me in a far greater humility



Christ who died carrying the weight of your sin to the cross


asks you would pray,


“Make me free from sin’s captivity.

 

Erase all the wounds in me.”


Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counselors. Kevin is going to be a chaplain. He also feels called to be a professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen is the Director of a women’s abuse shelter. She enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppets, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy teddy bear, and Mike the Moose from Matheson. This is a small town in northern Ontario, Canada, an hour’s drive south of the city of Timmins. Dr. Teddy and Mike the Moose from Matheson are consultants with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

 

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

The Path of Peace, Forgiveness and Love

Posted on 21 January, 2017 at 0:25 Comments comments (0)



God’s peace walked with me amidst my busy day

 

His strength was with me as I did pray

 

He reminded me Christ is my hope and stay

 

His love is with me all the way

 

I love You, Father, more than I could ever say


 

 

When I get it wrong, You are always there to forgive

 

Have me my apology to those I’ve hurt give

 

Then, I feel a growing love for them in my heart live


 

 

Thank you, Father, for loving me with all my sin

 

Cleansing sin’s soot within


 

 

Flow healing river within me

 

Make me who I ought to be

 

Looking beyond my abusive past I finally feel free

 

See more of my God-given destiny

 

Blue sky of joy peaking through the gray I see

 

I rejoice that You love me!


 

 

Help me each day to love others as You love me

 

Never be offended by their hostility

 

Look beyond hurtful words to the pain inside You see

 

Listen with my heart and mind to suffering humanity


 

 

Everyone has something to teach me

 

A lesson

 

An experience

 

A new way of looking at things


 

 

In my weaknesses am I made strong

 

Through my challenges I see how You to my life does belong

 

You use those who can’t walk, hear, see or slow to understand

 

To teach others how we’re all fearfully and wonderfully made by Your hand

 

No one is ugly in Your eyes

 

We’re all beautiful

 

We’re all unique


 

 

Help me and all of us see Your path of peace, forgiveness and love

 

To soak in Your peace with all the business of life

 

To feel the healing flow of forgiving others and ourselves

 

To love one another as Your Son loved

 

Unconditionally

 

Completely

 

Sacrificially

 

With two open hands


 

 

Thank You, Father, for teaching us about Your peace, forgiveness and love.

 

 

Amen.

 

Kevin and Karen Osborne are Christian pastoral counsellors and psychotherapists. Kevin is studying to become a chaplain and professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. We have started You Can Hope Again Counselling. Karen enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppet, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy bear. He is a partner with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy pastors and ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

Love Call from Bethlehem

Posted on 7 December, 2016 at 14:05 Comments comments (0)

Dear reader:

 

This reflection is based upon life experience and real situations that happen in the lives of others.


I’m in a hurry today

 

So many gifts to buy

 

Lineups in the store to face

 

Deadlines to meet at work

 

Have to deal with my teenage daughter addicted to drugs

 

An eight year-old special needs son, for whom I never have enough time

 

My wife is in burnout

 

Both of us are juggling a career and family

 

She never has enough time for me

 

She tells me I never have enough time for her

 

 

 

When can we have time to breathe?

 

To stop this hectic pace of our lives

 

Have we focused too much on doing and not enough on being?

 

Father, do You hear us?

 

Where are You?

 

We have lost our way

 

We don’t know if we can go on

 

Father, show us the way back to You

 

Show us how we can get our lives back

 

our family back


 

 

 

Father, we hear You

 

You want us to spend more time alone with You

 

To feed on Your Holy Word

 

Flood our souls with music that quietens us

 

Be willing to let go of this stressful pace of our lives

 

You call us to spend more time with our children

 

To never stop loving our daughter

 

Be willing to fight for her recovery

 

Tell her in love she needs to go into treatment for her drug addiction

 

You say to my heart I need to love my wife more

 

Pray You would put Your love in my heart for her

 

You call to my heart to embrace my son more

 

Encourage him that through his learning challenges You’re calling him to help others


 

 

 

We pour out our hearts to You

 

You let our tears come

 

Then, You remind us of this truth:

 

Those who are lost can be found.

 

They only need to say,

 

“Lord, here I am with all my sin.

 

Let me from the darkness come in.

 

Warm my longing spirit with Your love’s flame,

 

remembering Your Son,

 

who died that a world in darkness would see

 

Christ’s light that shines eternally.”

 

 

 

Father, thank you for loving me and my family

 

For teaching us about love from Bethlehem freely given

 

Love that was born in a manger to give us life

 

Love that grew up to give all it could

 

dying for a sinful world on Calvary’s cross

 

Love that heals us

 

Love that sees us

 

Love that hears us

 

Love that knows us

 

Love that conquers hate in us and others

 

Love that gives hope

 

Love that releases Your love to all we see

 

Kevin and Karen Osborne are Christian pastoral counsellors and psychotherapists. Kevin is studying to become a chaplain and professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. We have started You Can Hope Again Counselling. Karen enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppet, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy bear. He is a partner with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy pastors and ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

Co-author on Mind's Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

Blessings in the Forgiveness

Posted on 11 September, 2016 at 0:05 Comments comments (0)


I have had people who have been mean to me

 

There are times forgiveness for them has been awfully hard to see

 

But I had to learn by holding on to the past of my abuse

 

verbally, emotionally, physically, to no one could I be of use

 

I had to let go of hate

 

Let love in

 

That’s the thing that gives true peace within

 

It’s tough to forgive those who have hurt you

 

To release all of that pain

 

It will take time to forgive

 

That a renewed hope for life in your heart would live

 

I pray that you would see hate will only leave you imprisoned

 

Caught

 

Bound

 

Trapped

 

It took me decades to begin forgiving my father for abusing my mother, brother, two sisters and me

 

I was filled with sadness

 

Times were rare when I would have true gladness

 

I had to see through the lies that I was weak, and always would be a failure

 

Counsellors, family, friends and colleagues helped me see I am not the lies I was told

 

Guided me in singing a new song of

 

Freedom

 

Beauty

 

Love

 

Joy

 

There were times I screamed at God, “When I was abused why weren’t You there?

 

If You didn’t stop it, then You don’t care!”

 

When I became a Christian at 19 as I prayed at the altar I felt God say to me,

“Kevin, in every blow, in every slap, in all the terrible things your father and others said about you, do you really think I wasn’t there?

 

I felt every tear you cried

 

I was angry at how you were rejected by your father

 

I was there all the nights as a child and adult you have been afraid to sleep

 

Terrified your father would come into your room, smother you with a pillow

 

I was with you when you prayed at five under that willow tree

 

Pleaded with Me from your father’s abuse you and your family would be set free

 

I know this is hard for you to see now

 

I can’t change the way others act towards you

 

When I created you and all humanity,

 

I gave you the ability to choose how you would behave

 

Look at all they did to my one and only Son

 

He was

 

Rejected

 

Hated

 

Abandoned by his followers

 

Persecuted

 

Ridiculed

 

Beaten

 

Crucified

 

Don’t you think that tore away at me?

 

How I allowed Him to die

 

How he asked Me on Calvary’s cross,

 

“Eloi, Eloi, sabachtani?”

 

Meaning, “My God, my God, why have You forsaken me?”

In his humanity He asked the same question you’re asking Me now

 

“Father, when I needed You most, You where nowhere to be found

 

Alone, abandoned You left me!”

“Kevin, this truth I hope you will come to believe

 

I didn’t want you to be abused

 

But some day you will see how loving and gentle a man of God you are

 

Why?

 

Because of all I allowed you to go through

 

That for others you would be truly there

 

For others you would mean it when you say, “I care.

 

I will be here as long as you need me,

 

so from your abuse, from whatever issue you have,

 

you would be set free.”

 

Kevin and Karen Osborne are Christian pastoral counsellors and psychotherapists. Kevin is studying to become a psychologist and professor of Psychology. He feels called to also be a chaplain. We have started You Can Hope Again Counselling. Karen enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppet, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy bear. He is a partner with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy pastors and ministers a much-needed break. Please visit our counselling website, where you will also find our blogs. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

 

Co-author on Mind's Seat, a Christian nspirational blog

Hope Walked with Me

Posted on 20 August, 2016 at 13:10 Comments comments (0)




I spoke with hope for a while as he walked with me.

 

These are the thoughts he shared with me.

 

There is a Christian leader I know who follows God.

 

He is soon to loose his home and car.

 

I have made appeal after appeal,

 

only to have those faithful few answer the call.

 

Hope, please answer this question that perplexes me.

 

Where is greater community for this beloved friend, a valued mentor

 

who is seriously ill,

 

who is down to eating oatmeal and peanut butter?

 

Hope paused and then prayed before answering this question.

 

Then, he said to me,

 

“There are still people who care,

 

who for the suffering are truly there.

 

In this ever-darkening world they are getting harder to find;

 

those who have not forgotten the inner healing power of being kind.

 

The god of materialism reigns because many live with secret pains,

 

they don’t want others to see.

 

They get temporary pleasure from things;

 

from their big screen TV saying, “I get 500 channels.

 

Don’t you see how happy I am?”

 

I live where there is yet those who care;

 

in those who say to the hurting, “I am there.

 

I will not go away.

 

Please tell me how I can bring hope to you today?”

 

I exist in those who have suffered their own secret pain;

 

who see when we reach out to others a helping hand,

 

that’s where hope does with that bleeding soul stand.

 

Hope said, “There are many people needing me —

 

the abused, addicted, broken-hearted, those with physical and developmental challenges, rich, poor, sick, searching souls and the lonely.

 

I must go, so they will not give up on me.”

 

I’m thankful for the time hope walked with me

 

Taught me more about him

 

Brought some brightness into my day

 

Put a smile upon my face

 

Had me pray for me and all of us to have a more compassionate humanity,

 

because like it says in God’s Word, “These three remain,

 

faith, hope and love, but the greatest of these is love.”

 

Love is the fire that gives hope life.

 

Love is the gift we all can give,

 

for it is in giving love, and helping with the needs of others, hope does truly live.

From Abuse to Alleluia

Posted on 20 August, 2016 at 13:00 Comments comments (0)


Your abuser has told you that you are garbage

 

That you are of no use

 

You will always be refuse


 

Today, hear this truth and hear it deep inside

 

When from life you seek to hide

 

Tears are with you day and night

 

You live in darkness, desire to see light

 

Because the many lies your abuser has beaten you to believe

 

Remember your abuser’s goal is you to deceive

 

To tell you that you are ugly

 

To have you become a false self

 

Not the true self you are meant to be


 

You are a beautiful person inside

 

Not ugly

 

Not stupid

 

Not a failure


 

Speak these truths to yourself over and over

 

I am beautiful

 

I am creative

 

I am articulate

 

I am intelligent

 

I am an overcomer


 

Believe that in your hurt and pain

 

New life and hope you will gain

 

Reach out to those who care

 

Who will tell you the true person that lies within there


 

I have been abused too

 

My schizophrenic father so many times did beat me

 

He did not in his sickness want me the truth to see

 

Did not want me from my prison of lies to be set free

 

These are the lies he told me

 

You are stupid

 

You are weak

 

You are clumsy

 

Your brother is smarter than you’ll ever be

 

And these killing words did he say over me

 

"Kevin, I wish you had never been born.

 

You disappoint me.

 

A failure you will always be."


 

I’m healing from my abuse

 

Know that I’m not a piece of refuse

 

And neither are you

 

Hear the truth of who you are

 

Heal that searing scar


 

Don’t try to heal on your own

 

Don’t try to gunnysack the pain

 

Hear love’s sweet refrain

 

That there is a plan and purpose for your life

 

All things are possible to those who believe

 

Who love from others they are willing to receive

 

Who will take your hand through your living hell

 

And will tell you that you’re really swell

 

That is how you will go from abuse to alleluia

 

Because this truth you will then know

 

That you have an overcoming story to share

 

And the wounded healer you shall be

 

The victorious healer you shall be!

 

Because lives from their living hell you are setting free

 

The truth that they are beautiful they will see

 

What an ambassador of hope you will be!

 

When broken lives their abuse and alleluia you teach others to see

 

What an overcoming story that will be!