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God Bless Your Marriage Today and Always

Posted on 19 July, 2018 at 13:00 Comments comments (0)


Father, we pray You will bless this marriage with Your amazing love

As they walk with You may their love for You and one another refine

Water their relationship with the sweet fragrance of Your love

Flowing river of God’s grace draw them to thoughts above


In the business of their lives give them times of sanctuary

Restorative peace

Restful renewal

Repairing of body, mind, and spirit


In Your created things there is joy if we take the time to see it

A robin redbreast with birdatttude

Strutting its stuff as it moves

Squabbling with other birds for its community position

Squirrels stuffing their cheeks with any food they can find

An eagle soaring through the sky

Trees dancing gently with the wind

Children laughing as they play

The smell of a rose

The sounds of silence

 

May the richest blessings of God be in your life

Comfort in times of strife

Calling you closer to our Father and one another

Infilling you with outstretched love for your sister, your brother

Let Spirit love flow

Compassion for the hurting

Reaching out to the abused, dejected and rejected

A love given to others that is as wide as the sea of Galilee

Telling others how from their prisons of pain they can be forever set free


Take time to see the message of God’s love in all things He has created

In the present of all He means to the both of you

Father, let each breath this couple breathes be filled with this knowledge

They are the apple of Your affection

Your love looking into their eyes

Your hope helping them see their brighter tomorrow

Your healing love for them and one another


Bless their marriage today and always

Amen.

Dr. Kevin James Osborne, Psy D., D.Sc., D.D., is the Vice-President of Institutional and Mission Development for St. James the Elder University. He feels God is leading him to graduate study in theology and counseling. Karen is a counsellor. She is also a Master to Doctoral student in Psychology at SJEU. Our mission field is wherever God puts us for His glory.


The Love That Will Not Let You Go

Posted on 20 January, 2018 at 13:55 Comments comments (4)



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This morning as I lifted my heart to God in prayer, He spoke to my heart to turn through the pages of The Book of Praise. I was searching for a song that would speak to the weary and sad soul of a woman whom we are helping. I share only the general details to keep her situation in the utmost confidentiality. She has been emotionally abused by her husband several years. Her mother physically and emotionally abused her when she was a child. Her husband is demanding a divorce.  He refuses to get counselling for his issues. He has been charged by the police with assault. We are praying through our witness she will see what true love looks like.


Leafing through the pages of this book of praise I came upon the song O Love That Wilt Not Let Me Go. This is the kind of love we are called by Christ to give – love that will not let go; love that speaks its words of life and healing; love that soothes; love that stands with someone through their storm; love that does its best to free others from poverty of body and spirit; love that says to the homeless person out in the bitter cold, “Here’s a cup of hot chocolate, a meal and a brownie. Please take this coat, scarf, and gloves. It’s a gift.”; love that speaks its words of comfort and hope to that suffering soul; love that says even though I don’t have all the answers, “Here I am.”; love that is real and says to those we help, “I’m a stumbling sinner like you.”; love that shows the way to the enduring hope in Christ; love that will stand against darkness in the name of Jesus Christ; love that says to those who have been abused they are not a piece of garbage; love that tells the abused and everyone they are beautiful in the eyes of God; love that says to every human-being, “God loves you with an everlasting love that will not let go.” That’s the kind of love Jesus our Saviour showed when He took all of our sins upon Himself to that rugged cross. It wasn’t love that gave part of itself; it was love that gave all of itself. It was crimson blood flowing as life drained out of Christ as He bore the cruelty of crucifixion. He spoke not of hating others, but loving and forgiving them.


Father, help Karen and me and all of us to show that love that asks nothing in return. It gives because it is the call of Christ that comes to us over 2,000 years ago to all the trials we face, to the now of our lives. It’s the love that says, “Come to Me all who are weary and burdened with life’s struggles, the harm caused you, and I will give you rest.”


Please pray for our client that as she goes through her pain she will feel the strength of God’s, ours and your love. Whatever thoughts you would like to pass along to her, please feel free to share them here, or if you prefer confidentiality email them to me at [email protected] or to Karen at [email protected]


If we can help you in any way, please call us at 1-705-316-0725. We turn NO ONE away because of lack of ability to pay. Something can always be worked out. Please let others you feel we could help know about us.


Today and every day let us offer others the Love that will not let them go.


Dr. Kevin James Osborne, D.Sc., D.D., Psy D. Candidate, is the Vice-President of Institutional and Mission Advancement for St. James the Elder University. He was recently named to the office of Chaplain by Most Reverend Heyward B. Ewart Ph.D., Psy.D., D.D., who is the Head of Holy Catholic Church International. Kevin and Karen have a private counseling practice called You Can Hope Again Counselling. Kevin is a Doctorate in Psychology (Psy.D.) candidate at St. James the Elder University. When he graduates with his Doctorate in Psychology, he feels God is leading him to postgraduate study in theology and counseling. Karen plans to take graduate studies in psychology and theology. Our journey is all about being servants of Christ’s love wherever God leads us. Our mission field is wherever God puts us for His glory.

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What is the true meaning of Christmas?

Posted on 20 December, 2017 at 10:25 Comments comments (0)



I share with you some thoughts about the Christmas season

That in all the hustle and bustle you would take time to reflect on its reason

It’s about caring for others

Going that extra mile

Bringing to the sad and the lonely a smile

Saying to others, “For you, I do care.

I want you to know for you I’m there.”

Christmas isn’t about going into debt

It’s about our saviour for who you wept

Who died on Calvary that from your sin you would be set free

We speak of a Jesus who was meek and mild

Looking with eyes of hope upon that holy child

Born at Bethlehem in a manger bare

Wise men from the east came to see Him there

They followed a bright and shining star

Coming from country afar

To offer their gifts of frankincense, myrrh and gold

To worship the infant

Taking time with Mary and Joseph to behold the Christ child there

Shepherds watching their flocks by night

were told by an angel of the Lord,

“Today is born this day in Bethlehem in the city of David,

a saviour.”

The shepherds left their flocks to worship Jesus there

Over 2,000 years have gone by

Men, women, and children still searching their hearts

To try to understand fully why God would give to us

the gift of His one and only Son to die at Calvary

Why He would love us so much to allow us from our sin to be set free

Theologians, ministers, and laypeople continue to ask that question

When I think about Christ in the manger

The baby who grew up to speak a message of hope for all

the answer for why God gave such a huge sacrifice is this:

God did it to not only free us from the wrong things we say, think and do

He did it because He wanted to teach you and me

that the best gifts in life are free

To encourage and challenge us to show our love to others,

our outstretched humanity

That we would learn what true love does mean

That kind of sacrificial love isn’t as often seen

There is less of a spirit of community

Too much focus on the “me”

But I thank our Father in Heaven for those who love the hurting

Take time to listen to others in despair

Over a cup of coffee, their compassion to share

I pray this message has spoken to your heart

Has lifted your weary spirit

Please take time from your work to rest and play

To spend time with family and friends

The best present you can give is your love

Treat everyone equally as your sister, as your brother

Allow the spirit of Christmas to be alive in you every day

Take time for the struggling to pray

To help them where you can

Tell them they aren’t failures

because they have fallen on hard times

They are a-okay

For everyone, this would be my prayer:

In this world filled with too much terror, too much fear

a spirit of unconditional love would flow out from you 365 days a year

Dr. Kevin James Osborne, D.Sc., D.D., Psy D. Candidate, is the Vice-President of Institutional and Mission Advancement for St. James the Elder University. He was recently named to the office of Chaplain by Most Reverend Heyward B. Ewart Ph.D., Psy.D., D.D., who is the Head of Holy Catholic Church International. Kevin and Karen have a private counseling practice called You Can Hope Again Counselling. Kevin is a Doctorate in Psychology (Psy.D.) candidate at St. James the Elder University. When he graduates with his Doctorate in Psychology, he feels God is leading him to postgraduate study in theology and counseling. Karen plans to take graduate studies in psychology and theology. Our journey is all about being servants of Christ’s love wherever God leads us. Our mission field is wherever God puts us for His glory.

Love that Forgives and Forgets

Posted on 16 December, 2017 at 17:05 Comments comments (0)


Our kitties continue to teach us important life lessons. The most recent one is that they share the kind of love of brother and sister that is unlike that of a human brother and sister or that of any human relationship. They have a knock down drag out fight full of hissing with surround sound. A short time later they are laying on the sofa nestled together as if nothing had happened. When I think of the relationship with my brother there were times although we loved one another that we had fights that sometimes would become physical. We would say awful things to each other. Neither one of us would give in. There would be times we would take whatever issue we had with one another into the next day. We were stubborn. Our conscience bothered us though. We couldn’t carry on the disagreement. We forgave one another. 



In our marriage, we try as much as possible to follow the Biblical admonition to not let the sun go down upon our anger (Ephesians 4:26). We aren’t always successful. God is still working on us as He is on all of His children. While we are adults that child within pokes its head into our marriage. We both were abused as children. The wounded child that we thank God is healing at times feels the hurt, remembers those harsh words spoken over us. We have progressed hugely in our inner healing because of surrendering our pain to God. We understand the importance of having professional therapists help us as with our Father’s grace we go further in our inner healing. It takes time. Be patient with yourself as you take that long and difficult journey of forgiveness. Please remember every step of forgiveness you take is a victory to be thankful to God for. Even if you aren’t a believer we pray you see how vital it is to your physical and mental well-being to forgive others who have harmed you. When you keep all that anger inside it will destroy you. Let it go. Bless yourself with the gift of a heart that forgives. 



If I could give you a gift this Christmas season it would be this: You would give the gift to yourself of forgiving those who have hurt you. It will vastly improve your health and your life. If you can’t yet go that far, perhaps you could forgive yourself. We carry far too much false guilt upon ourselves. God never intended that. Yes, feel remorse for those things you have done wrong. Be honest with God about those you have injured. Try to make amends to those you have hurt, but don’t carry guilt in your heart like an anchor weighing you down.



Our pets teach us not to keep a record of past wrongs. Love keeps no record of wrongs (I Corinthians 13: 5). We did; it almost ruined our lives. Live each day with the spirit of love alive within you. Who knows what blessings may come your way as with God’s help you seek to forgive even if you don’t forget? God knows.



We offer you this Christmas gift wrapped in the love of Christ of a heart that forgives.

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We love you!

Kevin and Karen

Dr. Kevin James Osborne, D.Sc., D.D., Psy D. Candidate, is the Vice-President of Institutional and Mission Advancement for St. James the Elder University. He was recently named to the office of Chaplain by Most Reverend Heyward B. Ewart Ph.D., Psy.D., D.D., who is the Head of Holy Catholic Church International. Kevin and Karen have a private counseling practice called You Can Hope Again Counselling. Kevin is a Doctorate in Psychology (Psy.D.) candidate at St. James the Elder University. When he graduates with his Doctorate in Psychology, he feels God is leading him to postgraduate study in theology and counseling. Karen plans to take graduate studies in psychology and theology. Our journey is all about being servants of Christ’s love wherever God leads us. Our mission field is wherever God puts us for His glory.

How love changes us - My open letter to Karen and you

Posted on 26 October, 2017 at 20:10 Comments comments (0)


I came across this serenity prayer for caregivers. I was so moved by it that I felt led to share it with you. I thank God for my beautiful wife, Karen, who is my main caregiver. With all the challenges to my energy, mobility, focus, the functioning of my body and memory that my extremely rare allergy cell disease mastocytosis presents, Karen has always been there encouraging and challenging me to be the best I can be. In this allergy cell condition, my mast cells don’t work right. Mast cells are those cells necessary for life that are in your immune system and throughout your body tissues. We all need mast cells to survive. In my case, it’s too much of a good thing where these mast cells keep increasing that are irregular in shape and size. Karen tells people it’s like having allergy on steroids. I tell people it’s like having a neighborhood block party that’s out of control.


Please share this open letter with those you think would be touched by it. Let us all be thankful for caregivers and the loved ones they are there for. Let us be there for the caregiver and the ones they help. Just listening to them and helping with practical things like sending over some meals once in a while can make a huge difference. They will feel that you care. They will not feel so alone in their struggles. They will be able to take time to laugh and enjoy the blessing that is you.


Now, I have a message for Karen that I’m giving to her as a surprise gift.


Karen, thanks for nights too numerous to count when you laid your weary head on the bottom of my hospital bed. You prayed I would be alive in the morning after having a breathing tube put down my throat because of anaphylaxis, and being placed on a ventilator to breathe. When I had my breathing tube taken out, you held me and kissed me. I was glad to be alive because when I was conscious your eyes filled with love made me feel thankful for the gift of life. I became more keenly aware of how each breath we breathe is a gift from God.


My health has improved in so many ways because of how you love me with God’s love in you, and the medical care I have been receiving. We both know human love would not have carried us this far; it would have buckled under the pressure of life’s struggles.


My precious darling, I thank God for the blessing that is you. In those times when you feel the weight of the cross you carry, I pray you will remember you never carry it alone. Christ who gave His life for you, me and all of us, carries your cross for you. He knew it would be too heavy for you to carry alone.


Remember that night I was struggling to breathe because of my pneumonia and I breathed this prayer: “Lord, I thank You for the gift of coming closer to You?” That was the wise advice Papa (religious name Patriarch Paul) gave me. Darling, I felt so close to our savior then. It was like His arms wrapped around me, comforting me, making me feel so loved.


My sweet butterfly, I loved you from the first day I saw you as that shy person at that Bible study. God had me see that within you lived the desire to be deeply loved and appreciated. You have blossomed so much more into the woman of God He had in mind when He created you. I am so proud of the woman you have become, how you have allowed God to shape you. When it comes to helping others there is a mixture of boldness and grace that pours out of your spirit. This unconditional love can only be from how Christ’s love has embedded itself deeper into your heart.


I love you not merely for what you do as my caregiver, but moreover for who you are. You have come out of your hidden cocoon and matured into this beautiful woman that is a joy to behold and tell others about.


There are so many ways to say love in different languages but the message is still the same — caring for someone more than yourself and becoming someone better because of that person. That is the transforming power of love.


Karen, I am a better man because of you and the many people among my family, friends, colleagues, and strangers I have met on the street, who all have been part of the forming of my character. You are my coach and my cheerleader. Yet, above all of these things, you are my God-given companion.


God bless you richly.


Kevin

Dr. Kevin James Osborne, D.Sc., D.D., Psy D. Candidate, is the Vice-President of Institutional and Mission Advancement for St. James the Elder University. He was recently named to the office of Chaplain by Most Reverend Heyward B. Ewart Ph.D., Psy.D., D.D., who is the Head of Holy Catholic Church International.  Kevin is a Doctorate in Psychology (Psy.D.) candidate at St. James the Elder University. When he graduates, he feels God is leading him to study for a Master of Theology degree in Catholic Theology through St. James the Elder University, in preparation to become a deacon and then a priest with Holy Catholic Church International. Kevin will take that longer journey to doctoral studies in theology in preparation to become a professor integrating psychology with theology. Karen plans to take graduate studies in psychology and theology. Our journey is all about being servants of Christ’s love to others.


The Gift of Coming Closer to Christ

Posted on 26 September, 2017 at 13:55 Comments comments (1)


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Dear reader:

This is a pastoral letter from me to you. For those who don't know what that is it's a way of communicating on a personal level from a pastor to the congregation. In churches such as the Catholic and Anglican church it's an official letter from a Bishop or higher ecclesiastical leader conveying a spiritual truth or some matter of doctrinal or theological teaching. One of the communities I offer my service to is you. In this world where we hear more bad news about escalating tensions with North Korea that could lead to war and the constant threat of terrorism, we need to reach out to love others, to be there for them in their time of need, to be that listening ear in their struggles. I seek to show you how we can overcome hate with love. I pray you will feel that love coming to you as if I was in the same room with you speaking to your heart and life. 

 

How’s everything going for you?

 

I’m only three courses away from graduating from St. James the Elder University with my Doctorate in Psychology (Psy.D.). This journey started 16 years ago is nearing fruition. I share this joyful news with you to encourage you. Many of you already know I have an extremely rare autoimmune disease called mastocytosis. This condition involves a proliferation of mast (immune and systemic) cells. We all need mast cells to survive. For me, it’s a case of having too much of a good thing. Imagine having twelve cups of coffee a day. That wouldn’t be good for you. I know a few students who have pulled all-nighters drinking coffee in preparation for an exam. New studies say some coffee is a good thing, but too much of it isn’t.


I pray my overcoming story will be an inspiration to you. If I with this disease with all of its challenges to things such as breathing, energy, mobility, kidney function, and memory can be this close to a Doctorate accredited by the state of Florida, think what you can do with the life God has given you. He has a plan uniquely designed just for you. I thought at one time I would be a journalist and a lawyer. While our Father has given me some intensive training in journalism, criminal and business law, His main calling on my life has been to be there for others in deep emotional distress. Pastors, teachers and everyday people have shared things with me they say they haven’t with anyone else. I pray they see in me the shining light of Christ’s hope in their darkness and despair.


I come now with two open hands asking you to pray for my wife Karen and I. I have pneumonia in my left lung. To the best of my recollection, this will be my eighth bout with pneumonia, one episode of it going into both lungs. I have been put on the third round of another antibiotic in hopes it will heal it. I feel God’s comforting peace around me unlike I have in many years. My dear friend, Patriarch Paul, said to me yesterday as we were joking and listening to one another, “Kevin, my dear son, when you get to the point you can’t take this suffering any longer say to the Lord, “Father, I thank You for the gift of coming closer to You.” Our suffering gives us an opportunity to identify more with the pain Christ endured for us. Let these words from the apostle Paul be our united testimony: “And my present life is not that of the old “I”, but the living Christ within me. The bodily life I now live, I live believing in the Son of God, who loved me and sacrificed himself for me” (Galatians 2:20, J.B. Phillips New Testament). That too is my hope, my prayer for you. When life becomes overwhelming and you can’t take it any longer you will say, “Father, I thank You for the gift of coming closer to You. I thank You that through my suffering I’m given this priceless gift to be given the time out of my busy schedule to draw near to You, to feel a love that I could ever fully explain. How can we as finite beings understand the mystery of Christ’s love? It would be like trying to explain what makes Bach’s Jesu Joy of Man’s Desiring beautiful or say what makes a rose lovely. Words fail. I can’t describe this love to you. I can only say, “Lord, thanks for loving me a sinner that much!”

 

I love you in the Lord!


Kevin

 

Dr. Kevin James Osborne D.D., D.Sc., Psy. D. (Cand.) is the Vice-President of Institutional and Mission Advancement for St. James the Elder University. If you would like to speak with him about becoming a student or just want someone who will pray with you, you can contact him at [email protected] You can call him at (705)316-0725. You can reach Patriarch Paul, who is President of St. James the Elder University at (904)805-6163. His email address is [email protected] Here’s the link for the school. http://www.stjamestheelder.org/ As a fundraiser for a church that will have a university and seminary as well as a medical and counselling centre where NO ONE will be denied care, we are offering a greatly reduced price of $2,500 for our combined Master to Doctoral Programs in Psychology and Theology. In the coming weeks, we will be introducing degree programs in Social Work. If God is tugging at your heart to study with us take a leap of faith and listen to it. You never know where it may lead.

In Times Like These

Posted on 5 September, 2017 at 14:30 Comments comments (0)



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If we all just reached out and touched somebody’s hand

what a better world this would be

We would show the best of our humanity

In times like these, I close my eyes, bow my head in prayer

Thinking of all the trouble in the world out there

The threat of nuclear war with North Korea

Terrorism

Soldiers going into harm’s way for the freedoms we enjoy

The growing cases of PTSD among them, first responders

indigenous people, and in our society

Suicides

The waste of the gift of life

A growing acceptance of a lukewarm faith

An increase of hatred based in ignorance

Judging people for their race

The colour of their skin

Their Christianity or whatever religion they are

Attacking people emotionally and physically for their beliefs

Cyber-bullying

Poverty

Unemployment

Disabled people denied career opportunities

Let us be thankful for those who see the disabled are strong

They to our society belong

Those who give them the opportunity for a career

Those who believe the disabled have a place

They are of benefit to the human race

Disease

Despair

Loneliness

Addiction

Abuse

Homelessness

Global warming

The growing disparity between the haves and have nots

This list is only a few of the issues we face

The problems are many

The solutions to them rest with us

But we must not allow them to paralyze us into inaction

They should be the reason we live each day doing what we can

Reaching out to those less fortunate than ourselves

Offering that caring hand up that leads to realistic hope

If we dwell on all the problems we will get overwhelmed

The best thing to do is to focus on even one of them

Do your best to be a voice for the voiceless

Give them the tools to speak for themselves

To advocate for their rights

Times like these need people like you

Willing, dedicated hearts

Smiles from your heart that lighten sadness

Outstretched hands of compassion

Two open hands to wounded lives

Just saying, “Here I am.”

Being available

Being consistent

Being caring

Being real

Doing all this in times like these


Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counselors. Kevin is going to be a chaplain. He also feels called to be a professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen is the Director of a women’s abuse shelter. She enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppets, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy teddy bear, and Mike the Moose from Matheson. This is a small town in northern Ontario, Canada, an hour’s drive south of the city of Timmins. Dr. Teddy and Mike the Moose from Matheson are consultants with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

Call to Care from Chrissy Archibald's Family

Posted on 6 June, 2017 at 0:30 Comments comments (0)



Photo: Courtesy of the Archibald family


This question keeps running through my mind. Why do terrorists hate strangers so much? I can understand the process of indoctrination of hate present from one’s childhood. But I have yet to hear anyone be able to explain to me one good thing hate does. One of the messages from one of the people who was up close with one of the terrorists was this: “I saw the hate in his eyes.” When we hate someone there is usually a reason for it. Those murdered and wounded in the most recent London and Manchester terror attacks did nothing to warrant being victimized.


As a Canadian, I am appalled by the murder of fellow Canadian, Chrissy Archibald. This young woman who worked at a homeless shelter before leaving for Europe to be with her fiancé was a giver. Her light will be missed by her family, friends, colleagues, and all of us. Many parents who lose their sons and daughters to cruel acts of terrorism are understandably filled with rage and demand vengeance. Yet, Chrissy’s parents encourage us to love others. They ask that we would volunteer at a shelter or donate to a worthy cause. “Tell them Chrissy sent you” will resonate in our hearts and minds for a long time.

 

I echo the call of Chrissy’s parents for a call to love, not hate, intolerance and indifference. That is what terrorism represents. They want you to be like them. I urge you not to give these haters of compassion that satisfaction.

 

Make your life count for something. Let it be said of you that you did your best to care for people in their time of need. Be that listening ear.

 

Let there be a revolution of caring that changes people’s lives for the better.


Be the best you, you can be.

 

I think that would make Chrissy smile.


Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counsellors. Kevin is studying to become a chaplain and professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppet, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy bear. He is a partner with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy pastors and ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

 

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

The Path of Peace, Forgiveness and Love

Posted on 21 January, 2017 at 0:25 Comments comments (0)



God’s peace walked with me amidst my busy day

 

His strength was with me as I did pray

 

He reminded me Christ is my hope and stay

 

His love is with me all the way

 

I love You, Father, more than I could ever say


 

 

When I get it wrong, You are always there to forgive

 

Have me my apology to those I’ve hurt give

 

Then, I feel a growing love for them in my heart live


 

 

Thank you, Father, for loving me with all my sin

 

Cleansing sin’s soot within


 

 

Flow healing river within me

 

Make me who I ought to be

 

Looking beyond my abusive past I finally feel free

 

See more of my God-given destiny

 

Blue sky of joy peaking through the gray I see

 

I rejoice that You love me!


 

 

Help me each day to love others as You love me

 

Never be offended by their hostility

 

Look beyond hurtful words to the pain inside You see

 

Listen with my heart and mind to suffering humanity


 

 

Everyone has something to teach me

 

A lesson

 

An experience

 

A new way of looking at things


 

 

In my weaknesses am I made strong

 

Through my challenges I see how You to my life does belong

 

You use those who can’t walk, hear, see or slow to understand

 

To teach others how we’re all fearfully and wonderfully made by Your hand

 

No one is ugly in Your eyes

 

We’re all beautiful

 

We’re all unique


 

 

Help me and all of us see Your path of peace, forgiveness and love

 

To soak in Your peace with all the business of life

 

To feel the healing flow of forgiving others and ourselves

 

To love one another as Your Son loved

 

Unconditionally

 

Completely

 

Sacrificially

 

With two open hands


 

 

Thank You, Father, for teaching us about Your peace, forgiveness and love.

 

 

Amen.

 

Kevin and Karen Osborne are Christian pastoral counsellors and psychotherapists. Kevin is studying to become a chaplain and professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. We have started You Can Hope Again Counselling. Karen enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppet, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy bear. He is a partner with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy pastors and ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

Offer Hope Through Your Struggles

Posted on 18 January, 2017 at 16:35 Comments comments (0)


Through the sharing of our struggles may you feel hope surging through you.

 

This letter comes with tears upon Karen’s and my heart. Yet, through our darkest times there is light, love and laughter.

 

My extremely rare autoimmune disease of negative serum tryptase mastocytosis is worsening. Essentially, this means more mast (immune and systemic) cell attacks are occurring at low levels building to moderate to severe ones over a period of several days to weeks.

 

Last October I had to be intubated. Karen and I were enjoying a long-delayed date day because of my ill health. A man passing through our town came into the restaurant we were having lunch at. He had cologne on him. I had to be intubated. This was my tenth intubation. Marks were put on my neck to do a tracheotomy, which thankfully wasn’t necessary. The doctors could barely get the breathing tube down me because there was so much swelling in my throat.

 

I’m recovering from my fifth bout with pneumonia.

 

I’m requiring stronger antihistamines whenever I go out to minimize the risk of anaphylactic and asthma attacks. I’m having to stay inside much more because of triggers such as scented products causing hyper-reactivity. I’ve had to go to the ER several times with anaphylactic and asthma attacks.

 

Thankfully, we can still have our counselling practice because clients either come to our attached office of our home where we have a no scent policy, or speak to us by phone. Many people prefer speaking to us via phone because they have anonymity.

 

We would be so thankful if you made others aware of our counselling practice. Having more clients would help pay for the medications and treatments the government doesn’t provide, and cover the costs of further professional education such as tuition, books and school fees. Here is the link for our counselling practice you can share.with your family, friends, colleagues and on social media.

http://www.youcanhopeagaincounselling.com/

 

My mastocytosis specialist doesn’t do video appointments. I have to get another one who does. The pollution in downtown Toronto where my specialist is, has triggered anaphylactic attacks.

 

We believe there is realistic hope my disease can be controlled and improved. Yours and my circumstances of today don’t have to be those of our tomorrow. We pray for all who have this terrible disease to have better health, improved quality of life, and that one day there is a cure found without risk of death. If we stopped believing in a brighter tomorrow we would give up, to say God is asking too much of us. There are times Karen and I feel that way, but we don’t stay there.

 

We don’t know what trial you are going through, but God knows. As we pray for you we know many prayers are being lifted up for us.

 

Live each day bringing hope into the lives of others. When you see anyone in need be there for them. Remember you are a gift to others. Even if you are poor caring costs nothing. It’s the present we give that has a lasting value.

 

We can have a more beautiful world by shining Christ’s light of hope in us.

 

And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love“ (Romans 5:5, New Living Translation).

 

Carry that hope in your hearts now and always.

 

Kevin and Karen

 

Kevin and Karen Osborne are Christian pastoral counsellors and psychotherapists. Kevin is studying to become a chaplain and professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. We have started You Can Hope Again Counselling. Karen enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppet, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy bear. He is a partner with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy pastors and ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.