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In Stillness We Hear

Posted on 18 July, 2017 at 13:05 Comments comments (0)



Father, slow down our minds so, like a child listening to a seashell, we take the time to hear the sounds of Your peace.


Have we been rushing too much, failing to listen to lessons taught by You in quietness? Please forgive us. Have we confused Your plan with ours? Give us clarity. Have we been so busy that we have made deals with You about the amount of time we are called to be still and know that You are God? O, draw us to that peaceful place where we will take the time to restore our weary souls. Have we thought doing is being? Help us to be more listeners than doers, for it is in truly hearing You, we can feel Your guidance if we allow ourselves to. Let us all take time in the noise of life to be quiet before You. Let these blind eyes see, feel and know You more deeply. Amen.

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Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counselors. Kevin is going to be a chaplain. He also feels called to be a professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. Karen is the Director of a women’s abuse shelter. She enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppets, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy teddy bear, and Mike the Moose from Matheson. This is a small town in northern Ontario, Canada, an hour’s drive south of the city of Timmins. Dr. Teddy and Mike the Moose from Matheson are consultants with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

Love's Silence Amid The Hate

Posted on 25 March, 2017 at 0:40 Comments comments (0)



Britain’s Parliament observes a minute of silence after London terror attack.

 

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Please take time out of your schedule to observe a minute of silence for the victims of London’s latest terror attack.

 

Almighty God, in the silence You hear our sadness. We weep for those who were slain and injured with a cold and calculated maliciousness in London, England. We are in shock. We struggle with what words of comfort we can offer as individuals, and a global community.

 

Save us, oh God, from anger and vengeance ruling our hearts. Only You can change hardened hearts. Only Your love in us can conquer hate.

 

Give British Prime Minister, Theresa May, all the members of the UK and world parliaments, world leaders, and all of us the courage and resolve to get back to some measure of normality in our lives. We can though never get fully back to our lives as they were. The evil of terrorism’s latest blow lingers with us like a dense fog. We could so easily lose our way if we get entangled in it.

 

Give us strength to fight against terrorism with love. Show us how we can offer outstretched hands of compassion to others.

 

In our words and actions breathe love’s message to lives desperately in need of an encouraging word or a helping hand up.

 

Quieten any noise in our lives that deafens our ears to the power of love’s silence, amid the hate that seeks to consume us.

 

Amen.

 

Kevin and Karen Osborne are psychotherapists and pastoral counsellors. Kevin is studying to become a chaplain and professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. We have started You Can Hope Again Counselling. Karen enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppet, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy bear. He is a partner with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy pastors and ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

 

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

Only Your Love can Change a Life

Posted on 20 November, 2016 at 9:05 Comments comments (2)

Father, put Your love in our hearts for others. Give us eyes to see the suffering around us. Grant us the compassion to relieve it wherever we can. Show us those who need our help. Give us the willingness to respond to the needs around us. Put Your hope in us. Show us how we can share our belief in a brighter tomorrow to others, in order for them to feel that hope for themselves.

 

The darkness cannot win over us if we continue to believe You will guide us into helping others see how their past need not be their present or future.

 

When we look at the state of our world with all those saying there is no hope for us, we can so easily get immersed in the philosophy of why bother to care. That is when we need to love more – to hold the hand of that person consumed with fear.

 

Father, as we enter into the Christmas season let us think this: What can I do today to bring light into the darkness of someone’s life? Then, let us to do it with an abounding joy in our hearts, that You have used us to touch the life of someone else. Is your neighbor without a job? If you can give him one, or give him leads as to where he could find work, I encourage you to do it. Be a character reference. Phone your contacts and give your neighbor an introduction to your neighbor. Be a mentor to your neighbor or anyone God calls you to guide. That encouraging word from you to some of your contacts could make the difference that gets someone a job. You could end up inspiring those you help to keep pressing on with that job search , which leads to them getting work.

 

Lord, we come with two open hands seeking Your will. Hear us as we call out to You.

 

Father, only Your love can defeat hate. Only Your outstretched compassion will make the difference in people’s lives. Only Your love and hope shining from us will change a person’s life.

 

Father,with Your love we will change lives, our communities and our world one person at a time.

 

Amen.


Kevin and Karen Osborne are Christian pastoral counsellors and psychotherapists. Kevin is studying to become a chaplain and professor of Psychology specializing in Pastoral Theology. We have started You Can Hope Again Counselling. Karen enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppet, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy bear. He is a partner with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy pastors and ministers a much-needed break. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

 

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog


Counting Our Blessings

Posted on 9 September, 2016 at 11:20 Comments comments (0)



I got up this morning, made a coffee, and had my breakfast

 

As I did this, I lifted up this prayer for those who often don’t even have one meal many days

 

I asked our Father that it would to your heart appeal

 

There are millions dying a slow, agonizing death from malnutrition

 

It’s not just in developing countries there is this deplorable condition

 

There are millions in rich countries who don’t have enough food to eat

 

For those with chronic and rare medical conditions it becomes a choice between eating well or doing without critical medications they need to stay alive, and have quality of life


 

I know this personally because Karen and I struggle with this reality every month

 

What medications can I have and what ones will I need to do without


 

We have no clients yet for our counseling practice

 

We’re in the process of spending several hours each day developing our counselling ministry

 

Networking

 

Mailing out introductory letters to pastors, doctors, psychiatrists, community leaders

 

Arranging meetings with them

 

Hearing people’s problems out in the community


 

Caring friends can only do so much

 

Without their support, I would have died many years ago from an extremely rare auto immune disease

 

It’s called mastocytosis

 

Like lupus it’s the disease of a thousand faces

 

Too many mast (immune and systemic) cells

 

Karen says to people it’s allergy on steroids

 

I tell others it’s a neighbourhood block party out of control

 

I have been intubated nine times for allergic reactions

 

Many times close to death

 

In coma as a missionary in South Korea

 

A disease that attacks my energy, mobility, digestion, immune system

Far too many symptoms to list here

 

But I’m still fighting, not giving up

 

Finally understanding my calling

 

To be a psychotherapist

Chaplain

 

Professor of Psychology and Pastoral Theology

 

Pastor to the pastors

 

Singer/songwriter

 

Missionary


 

 

You need to know what I share comes from one who experiences struggles every day

 

I’m getting much better thanks to God and the help of His people

 

Thanking God every day for His love and support of my gorgeous wife, Karen

 

My God-given bride

 

My shield mate

 

Family

Friends

 

Our pastor

 

Colleagues

 

The people of Matheson


 

But this is the point I want to make

 

We should not from anyone quality of life take

 

There needs to be a concerted effort by government and community

 

One day everyone a realistic hope would see

 

No one would be left behind in our society

 

No one would be abandoned who suffers from any mental illness, any anxiety


 

We would learn to set politics aside

 

From the homeless we would not our compassion hide

 

We would stop saying poverty will be with us always, so why bother?


 

But I ask you these questions to ponder

 

Would you want anyone abandoning you when you need a helping hand?

 

Wouldn’t you hope that through your struggle others with you would stand?

 

You would see community in action


 

 

Let’s all count our blessings

 

Share what we have

 

Let it be to others a healing salve


 

Kevin and Karen Osborne are Christian pastoral counsellors and psychotherapists. Kevin is studying to become a psychologist and professor of Psychology. He feels called to also be a chaplain. We have started You Can Hope Again Counselling. Karen enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppet, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy bear. He is a partner with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy pastors and ministers a much-needed break. Please visit our counselling website, where you will also find our blogs. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

 

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Where is love?

Posted on 8 September, 2016 at 9:40 Comments comments (0)


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Almighty God, throughout I Corinthians, chapter 12, we are taught by the apostle Paul, that we are all members in the body of Christ. Each one of us has different gifts. Help us, oh God, to use the gifts You have given us for Your glory. The gifts You give us whether it is teaching, preaching, or being one who listens with their heart to the problems and suffering of others, come from You. Let us not forget that.

 

In the business of our schedules we can so easily lose sight of You. How can we fight against the evil of terrorism without You? How can we speak against the injustice of poverty without You? How can we be stop the stigma that mental illness means weakness of character without You? How can we give those with physical and/or developmental challenges that strong and caring hand up out of their poverty, out of their hopelessness, out of their despair, out of the way they are judged as being incapable without You? How can we walk with the abused, lonely, the addict, gambler, prostitute and those who are the sad victims of human trafficking, sold into sexual slavery without You? How can we look into the eyes of a child who has lost all hope out of their spirit-crippling poverty without You? 


Speak to our hearts today and every day about how we can be participants right where we are or called to overseas missions, to create a more beautiful world. We can have such a world if we all commit to it. It doesn’t mean we are necessarily called to do great things, but rather small things with great love. Father, when we add all those small things together what a large thing we would all do, if we work together for the kind of world our children would say has hope. Let us leave them a world they can work on making better. 


That mother who cannot look into the eyes of her child dying a slow and miserable death of malnutrition, praying for the greater mercy for her child to die die asks, “Where is love?”


Love lies within each one of us.


Love is the candle we light to help us see in the darkness. 


Love is the answer. 


Only Your love in us will save us and our world. 


Amen.

Kevin and Karen Osborne are Christian pastoral counsellors and psychotherapists. Kevin is studying to become a psychologist and professor of Psychology. He feels called to also be a chaplain. We have started You Can Hope Again Counselling. Karen enjoys doing cross-stitch while I like writing and singing songs. Karen makes me laugh when she sings the kitty bed-time song saying, “It’s that time. It’s the bestest kitty time of the day!” Kevin enjoys teasing the kitties and making them do kitty dances with music. Their kitty, Catherine, loves it when kitty daddeh sings All Things Bright and Beautiful. Kevin likes doing impressions. He tells children’s stories and helps others with their problems using his hand puppet, Dr. Teddy, who is a therapy bear. He is a partner with us in our counselling practice.We are available to assist with worship and preaching to give busy pastors and ministers a much-needed break. Please visit our counselling website, where you will also find our blogs. We offer in-office, and phone counselling to anyone in the world.

 

Co-author on Mind’s Seat, a Christian inspirational blog

Hear and Be Revived in the Quiet

Posted on 23 August, 2016 at 8:55 Comments comments (0)

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In the quiet, Lord, You hear our pain

The anger that lies hidden deep within

Stress that comes from others expecting too much of us

Stress that comes from unreasonable demands we make of ourselves


 

There is far too much noise around us

Noise of spirits all with their inner raging heartache

Draw us to the sanctuary only You can provide

Oh, how we cry to You for stillness, for peace in all our activity!


 

We hear Your call to live life in greater balance

Eating healthily

Exercising

Enjoying life

Resting when we should

Relaxing

Having the courage to leave a toxic work place before it

destroys our health

Kills us first in spirit, and then in body

To not make success our god at the cost of losing

our health and our family


 

 

Renew those wounded soldiers of the faith

Warriors in prayer and spiritual warfare, who have given far too much

They thirst for the renewing rivers of Your peace to wash over them

Flood their worn souls with Your life-giving love


 

Thank you that You hear our silent and spoken cries

You listen to our struggles

You tenderly caress and heal our inner wounds

You soothe the roaring sea of our anger


 

Let us take time, oh God, to see the beauty amidst all the ugliness of this world

To hear the chirping of a bird

To see the trees dancing with the wind

To have the joy of children come alive in us

As we see them play

As we hear them laugh

As we sing with them


 

In the darkness of terrorism, show us Your light

Your love

Your peace

Your hope


 

 

Evil seeks to destroy us by eroding our hope

Questioning our faith

Eating away at our beliefs

Telling us a half faith, a half morality is acceptable

You ask that we would give You our whole heart

You tell us in Your Word to think on things that are lovely

Not the darkness, which seeks to consume us


 

 

We praise Your holy Name!

We lift our hearts in song to You

Thank you that singing can make us victorious over sadness

Lift us out of ourselves

Cause us to think more of others

Free us from the prisons of our pain

Cause us to feel Your love’s sweet refrain

as You, oh God, revive our spirits again and again